a day in my life

dayinthelife

In the past 3 years, my life has changed drastically.  I went from being a very, very stay at home mom of two sweet tiny boys living in Charlotte, NC to being a mostly stay at home mom of almost 4 boys living in Indianapolis, IN.  It sounds so similar, but it feels very different.

I’d love to share with you what my days look like as a 90% stay at home momma who also runs two crazy businesses.  It’s wild, it’s fun, it’s busy, it’s full…and it’s good.  It’s also hard, and loud, and sometimes difficult to manage…and it’s good.  My buddies Jessi and Casey are sharing their days, too.

On Mondays, I get all the kids ready and then get my oldest on the bus for kindergarten.  Then, I head to the grocery store and grocery shop with the two littler boys from 8:30-9:30am.  After that, I swing by my grandparents house.  They live about 2 miles from us and bless me hugely by hanging out with Cooper and Asher every Monday.  I wouldn’t be able to get to do what I do without their help.  There is no time to stay and chat, though, I have to head home to my weekly 10am meeting with Casey, Jessi, and Kacia.  We talk life, business, and the Lord.  It is good.  The rest of the day on Monday is spent producing content, conducting meetings, or doing intensive planning that needs lots of focus.  I try to use my childcare days the best I can.  I work when it is work time and often don’t leave my desk chair for hours on end.  I try to plan my day in advance to squeeze every bit of work out.  I take care of the things that are much, much harder to do with the kids.  I want to be a wise steward of my work days so that they days when I am with my kids I can be more with them.

Tuesdays are different days all together!  Let’s look at a typical Tuesday.

6:30am–My middle Cooper wakes me up.  It’s early.  I fight the temptation to pop on social media right away.  Instead, I head over to the YouVersion app and catch up on the latest She Reads Truth devotional.  It’s perfect for this season in my life when laying down, in the dark quiet, trying not to wake my other kids up trumps schlepping to a desk to open up my paper Bible.  Cooper watches a show on the iPad while I do my devos.  I snooze as long as he’ll let me after I finish reading.

Around 7:30–My oldest Noah bumbles in having awoken to his alarm clock.  Sometimes he’s dressed and ready to go for school already.  Those days are my favorite.  He and Cooper normally talk about their dreams from the night before or their plans for the day.  Sometimes they’ll finish up watching whatever Coop had on the iPad.  Then, they grab some breakfast.  Unless we are in a silly hurry, I encourage them to prepare their own breakfast.  I don’t want to be one of those moms of all boys who raises men who can’t do anything independently.  ;)  Plus, it makes my morning that much easier (if slightly messier).

While they are eating, I’m busy packing Noah’s lunch and checking his school things to make sure I’m not failing as a school mom.  :)  At 7:55am, I shoo Noah towards the door to grab his coat, backpack, and shoes.  If he doesn’t get to the end of the driveway by 7:59am, he’ll most likely miss the bus.

8:00am–Noah is on the bus and I take a brief deep breath.  I feel like I’ve cleared the first hurdle in my day.  Then, I hear Asher banging around in his crib upstairs. His favorite thing to do is stand up and shake the crib rails, he can efficiently move his crib around the nursery this way.  It’s loud, it’s obnoxious, and it’s unsettling.  Any suggestions??  :)  I grab him up and get him dressed for the day.  If Cooper hasn’t managed to get himself dressed by this point, I encourage him to do so.

8:30am–Drive Cooper to preschool.

9am-11:30am–I work on Tiny Twig administrational stuff.  Emails, planning, writing, collaborations.  I’m also probably rolling a ball back and forth with Asher, or possibly he’s sitting at the table snacking while I’m working.  At some point, I get Asher down for a quick morning nap.

11:30am–Leave to pick Cooper up from preschool.  I wait in a line of 10 minivans or SUVs.  I feel very much like an adult.  Cooper hops in an immediately starts chatting my ear off about his day.  He has wild stories about all the things they’ve done.  I try to be super present with him and let him take his time telling his stories.  I’ve found that he feels unimportant if I don’t take the time to let him fully detail his day.

Noon–Time for lunch.  I find if I sit down with the boys during their lunch time and really talk with them and enjoy a meal, then they are much happier to spend time playing independently later in the afternoon.  Next up is play time around the house for the boys, and I do wifely work–laundry, dishes, paying bills, making appointments, etc.

12:30-1:30pm–We spend time running errands, playing around the house, and getting other bits of things done.  I may do emails here and there, or maybe I’ll do some social media catch up on my phone.  But, most of this time is spent just “as a mom”.

1:30-3:30pm–Time to work on The Influence Network.  This is a particularly fun time of the day for me!  I love that we are in the ideation phase–that’s the best for me!

3:45pm–Noah gets off the bus and we hit the flurry of snack-time and full on brother-time.  It’s loud, it’s crazy, it’s chaos.  It’s a lot.  I try to escape their presence for a bit during this time and just let them enjoy each other’s company (and save myself some sanity!).  I’ll pick up around the house for the day, start thinking about dinner, etc.

5:30pm–Husband gets home and my work time mostly ends.  We’re pretty adamant about our time together, unless their is a pressing deadline looming that cannot be met otherwise.  We talk while he gets changed from work, he wrestles around with the boys while I finish up dinner, and then we eat.

6pm–Dinner.  We always ask each other what the best part of our day was and what is one thing we did to serve someone else.  We ask about serving, not to encourage them to boast about it, but to encourage them to be mindful of others throughout the day.  The boys hate if we forget to ask these questions, and there is normally some sort of negotiation about who should ask the questions that night.

7pm–Kids in bed.  Bliss.  Quiet.  Ahhhhhh.

For the rest of the evening, Mike and I generally chat about our days.  We talk about business (his and mine), goals, big family dreams.  We may do what we call “parallel solitude time”–where we either do work side-by-side or study the Bible on our own but sitting together.  It’s one of the ways we stay sane.  By about 9:30pm, we’re snuggled in a “nest” on the couch and catch up on some Netflix or Hulu before I fade away to sleep.  We cherish our time together in the evenings–and if we’re doing business it’s planning and dreaming, the fun stuff for us.  We’re working on our business rather than in our business.  No tasky things for the evening time.

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I’d imagine your days look something like this sort of juggle.  It’s just that this juggle is mine.  Not better, not worse, just mine.  On Friday, Jessi, Casey, and I will be back to share our takeaways and what works for us as mommas who juggle a lot.

 

 

20 Comments

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Elizabeth Rago

    How refreshing to know there are other women out there like me – staying at home AND running a business. Chaotic at times, but fulfilling in every way! 7 p.m. for me and my husband is filled with cheers and high fives and exclamations of “Hooray! It’s bedtime!” It’s our way to muster just enough energy to live through bath and bedtime before we collapse on the family room couch for the day…
    Great post!
    -Elizabeth

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    lindsey kubly

    I look up to you, friend. Thanks for showing the reality of how you make it work – fascinating! Hopping over to check out the other mamas now :)

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Adriana @ Classical Quest

    I was SO impressed to discover recently that Harriet Beecher Stowe was right around my age and on a tight budget with a house full of young children when she penned a book which literally changed the world.

    I wrote a post called “How Did She Do It?” because I was feeling overwhelmed. Through my research, I became inspired by the idea that what we are striving for as mothers/bloggers is not new. We are part of a sisterhood of passionate, determined, hopeful women which spans the ages!

    http://www.classicalquest.com/2012/06/how-did-she-do-it.html

    • Reply December 10, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Ohhh! I can’t wait to pop over and read! Thanks for posting the link. :)

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    molly

    Hi Hayley! You’re amazing. What an incredible use of your day! You seem to balance all the important aspects of life as wife & mother and have your focus on such worthy goals & values. I’m truly inspired! Thank you xo

    • Reply December 10, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Molly–thank you for your kind words! It definitely changes by the season and requires a lot of grace for and from everyone in the family…but it really works for us. :)

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Corrie Anne

    Thank you for sharing… I love the inspiring and intentional ways you spend your day.

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Nicole @ The Style Hatch

    Haley this is such a good idea! I always wonder how SAH/WAH mamas like me do everything they do! This definitely helps me, even though I’m just mama to one- I live the multiple business life!! xo

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Lauren Casper

    I’m loving these posts! I just finished reading Jessi’s and Casey’s… wonderful! It makes me feel like part of a community because my days are very similar – but different, too. I love how we mama’s use similar tools to make it all work for our unique families. Looks different but the same, you know?

  • Awesome posts! I have read Jessi’s and Casey’s, too, and love how you all are moms and have that mom time each day. I probably relate best to you because the other two seem like night owls and I am so not! Fun!! Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Margaret

    This is such an encouraging post. I run a little business, work part time from home for a Christian non-profit and try my best to by a ‘full time’ mama. It’s sometimes discouraging at the end of the day to wear so many hats and be so busy without having much that’s tangible to show for it. It’s encouraging to peek into other mama’s days and see a similar flow. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply December 10, 2012

    Traci

    Thank you for sharing! I love what you say about lunch time and really taking the time to share a meal. Definitely going to put that into practice.

  • Reply December 11, 2012

    17 Perth

    Love this! It is so inspiring and interesting to see how your days are shaped. I am not a mom yet–but as we begin the process of thinking about becoming parents, I have thought a lot about what my life/schedule would look like then. Would I keep working? This is definitely lots of food for thought. Thank you for sharing!

  • Reply December 11, 2012

    Amber

    I love this, especially the boys rolling around on the floor. What a fantastic job you do of balancing work and home. It is such a blessing to have you in my life to glean wisdom from!

  • Reply December 12, 2012

    Carlie V.

    I love reading about how other WAH/SAH mamas spend their days! I’m in the early days of heading down that path, and sometimes I feel like there’s just too much to do, and counting blessings, though they are many, is so hard.

    Reading a post like this reminds me that routines *do* happen, with experience and intentionality, and that a day with grandparents helps a ton!

  • Reply December 12, 2012

    Sara Stoff

    This was super inspiring for me. I have been struggling to get back into the swing of things since my newest was born (6 months ago!). Thanks for sharing. Xoxo

  • Reply December 13, 2012

    Ashley

    You always have such inspiring words to share, Hayley! Since my husband and I are coming up on are one year anniversary, we’ve been bombarded with the “When are you having babies?” question, followed-up by, “And then you can sit home with the little ones and not have to worry about that freelance thing you’re trying out.” You give all businesswomen hope that we can do both!

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  • Reply January 3, 2013

    Flower Patch Farmgirl

    I love this. I’m going to steal your 2nd dinner question — about service. What a great way to instill that value!

    Bummed more than ever that I couldn’t gab with you for hours on end at Influence. (I think you were kinda busy???) :)

  • Reply January 11, 2013

    julia [life on churchill]

    Thanks for sharing this! I’m a stay at home mom who also blogs and is about to open an etsy shop and my days sound very similar. I have two kiddos, both in preschool but on different days and at different schools (long story ;) ) I love the idea of working at night but that is usually my time with husband. So I squeeze time during the day. Glad to know I’m not alone!

    How does the schedule change in the summer?

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