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Real Question: Do you prefer to tell people your big plans first or try to achieve in secret and then reveal the ambitions you had?

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37 Comments

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Julie

    I don’t really have a choice…I have a hard time keeping secrets from my loved ones, so I usually blurt out everything before thinking it through….

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Katie

    I tend to share my hopes and dreams with close friends and family. I get so excited about them that I can’t help sharing! :) Plus, I love to collaborate and encourage. I find that when I’m in a community of others, and we are all sharing our big plans and dreams, we can come along side each other and help each other take the brave steps necessary to achieve them! :)

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Audrey

    I often tell people my big ideas and sell it to them beautifully. Then, when nothing comes of those plans (immediately, or at all) I feel so embarrassed. I wish I were more of an inward dreamer.

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      We sound a lot alike…but take heart, no need to be embarrassed! I’ve learned to sell people on my IDEA, not necessarily the end product. Sometimes I have ideas that are meant for other people to finish. :)

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Audrey

    I often tell people my big ideas and sell it to them beautifully. Then, when nothing comes of those plans (immediately, or at all) I feel so embarrassed. I wish I were more of an inward dreamer.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Joy

    It depends on what it is.. Sometimes when I get so excited I’ll share to those whom I know will support me, but at the same time.. sometimes it’s good to try to achieve in secret first heh.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Brenna D (@chicagomama)

    I absolutely keep it quiet outside of my husband and sister. Heck, I haven’t even told anyone on Facebook that I have been blogging since July! This January I am rolling out my new blog and I figure by then I should probably, you know, tell my friends…… :)

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Yes! Tell people! :) It’s so worth it!!!

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Ashley

    I’ll tell people all the time about general things like traveling I’d like to do, or that I want to work in publishing. But when it comes down to my actually needing to achieve something, like right now as I try to start my own freelancing business, I keep things quiet as long as I possibly can. When it comes down to it, people get excited for me and supportive of me, and if I fail, I don’t want to be letting anyone down except myself.

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      I understand that, for sure. But, I’ve found that A) I need people my people to support me, and B) they are super gracious when I fail. :) Take heart! Can’t wait to hear more about your freelance plans!

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Tori Easom

    Being honest here – I tend to keep it to myself at least until I’m more confident that it will be somewhat of a success. Truly, it is out of fear of failure & of others’ opinions of me. I find myself trying to be cautious not to share too much. But, the truth of God’s Word rebukes this tendency in me. We are not to be people who act or speak (or remain silent) out of fear – whether fear of failure or of the opinions of others. We need only please Him. I need to shift my idea of success to more closely match His & also understand that He redeems “failures” for His great glory. So, I should walk & speak with confidence in the endeavors He’s leading me to pursue. We need to exercise wisdom in what & when we share with others (meaning we shouldn’t probably tell everyone everything), but shouldn’t choose to “keep secrets” out of fear.

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      My dad told me when I was really little that I should keep things quiet until I’ve finished them–otherwise, I’ll look silly when I quit or fail. It’s so opposite of the way I’m wired that I’ve never made it part of how I operate–but the voice is still there sometimes shaming me that people will laugh when I fail.

      That said, my dad certainly did NOT mean for that to make the impression it did and probably said it flippantly and in passing. I don’t look at it as something he said meanly or to make me feel small.

      One more thing, the people in my life have been exceedingly gracious in the times when I’ve pooped out on my ideas before they come to fruition. So, I’m thankful for that. There have been very few times when I’ve been made to feel silly or small because of my inability to make something happen when I said I’d like to try.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    april

    Usually I tell people…even it if is just one or two…because I thrive best with accountability.

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Brittany

      Interesting. I initially said I lean toward being the 2nd person but I too am someone who thrives through accountability.

      • Reply November 14, 2012

        lindsey kubly

        I like to keep my ideas close too with just a couple trusted “advisors,” but the accountability they give is priceless! sounds like we are similar.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Deirdre | Oh Well Whatever

    Once I have given it some quite private thought and decided it is really something I want to tackle I proclaim it loud for everyone to hear. Not to be boastful or proud but because I know I have serious issues with follow thru and I feel that if I put it out there and speak it others will know about it and be able to hold me accountable to it. I don’t like when someone says they will do something and they never do and I don’t want to be that person. Sadly, sometimes I still flake out and my lack of follow thru wins, but not always and I am working on changing that!

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      I have said many times here that I am an idea person and I thrive in the beginning of projects. So, I get the follow-thru issue. :) I also am one to tell EVERYONE about my plans…because I get so excited about them. Sometimes it’s proven really great in my life, and sometimes it’s caused some slight “embarrassment”. xo!

      • Reply November 14, 2012

        Katie

        I already commented earlier, but I wanted to also say that your comment earlier this week about the fruit being in the follow-through was SUCH an encouragement to me. :) I’m currently in the beginning stages of eBook creation, and it’s by far my biggest personal creative project to date. The initial brainstorming phases were energizing and so much fun, but I’m now reaching the stage of just needing to sit down and get the writing and designing done. :) I know I need to keep reminding myself to keep at it…that the fruit of this project will be found in my follow-through. :)

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Brittany

    I tend to be the latter type person for sure. Aside from one or two trusted online friends and my husband, I don’t really share my big ideas with anyone.

    When I do eventually do so it’s after they are in the works quite a bit.

    The voice inside tends to think if I don’t put myself out there then there is little risk of rejection or failure, but also I’m learning little success can come without the willingness to be brave.

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      april

      I used to keep things more to myself for the same reason you were talking about with the voice telling you not to put yourself out there!! I was so scared of failure and rejection that I never told anyone anything about my plans. :(

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Ashley Beaudin

    I am really big at making this sweeping announcements and then struggle to be brave enough to see it out to the end.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Lindsy @ space for joy

    I’m a talker. That’s probably why I blog. I love to share ideas and hear feedback. But I was asked a similar question long ago, and it has lead me to keep my mouth shut about big plans or endeavors that I haven’t fully committed to yet. It was said, “don’t tell me about running a mile, just go do it”. I don’t want to be all talk and no follow-through.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    lindsey kubly

    usually i spill my guts about things, but only to a few people. everyone else stays in the dark until it feels “safe.”

    so, today i’ll be brave – i started a new blog and it isn’t perfect but here it is: ‘

    http://www.thekublygirl.com

    ah!

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      it’s SO beautiful!!!

      • Reply November 14, 2012

        lindsey kubly

        thanks friend! it’s a work in progress :) your ebook is INCREDIBLE! so. smart.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Joelle

    I try to keep quiet, but sometimes I just get so excited that I have to tell the world! Something big is happening soon though, I’m trying my hardest to wait until Thanksgiving to bring it up with my family. I don’t want to jinx anything in case it doesn’t work out!

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Danette Dillon

    I like to mix it up, but I think it’s better to tell people your dreams and plans because they keep you accountable to do what you said you’d do.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Rebecca

    I tend to keep things in the family or to myself, it depends on what the ‘things’ are. Like when I decided to get my Master’s in Military History, I just told my sister and father because I knew they’d be supportive. Once my dad told my aunt and uncle, I got all kinds of questions like ‘what can you do with that degree’ which basically meant ‘are you serious? you can’t do anything with that’. So I tend to keep things to myself or at least tell my sister because that way I won’t be judged based on what I’m passionate about.

    • Reply November 14, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      That makes sense that you’d share what you’re passionate about with people who feel safe…and that is probably different people for different things. I’d say I’ve found my safe people who I share things with in the “idea infancy” and then get braver as the idea progresses to reality.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Mackenzie

    I’m often afraid that if I share my dreams and they don’t come to fruition, that people will think I’m flakey. But I definitely have dreams that I pray will come true someday…and I bet voicing them would help to make that happen. Thanks for the thought provoking post!

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Nicole

    I’m typically a work first, then tell kind of girl. Except I tell my husband. He knows it all.

  • Reply November 14, 2012

    Nadine

    I feel like I process every part of me outside of my body – aka via my words. Sometimes I wish I could just think it through myself but if I do, I tend to get stuck.
    I usually have good intentions by telling (aka accountability) but I’m not excellent at follow-through. Definitely an area to grow in.

  • Been thinking lots on this lately, how we should share enough to get the help/encouragement/resources we need, but not so much as to lose our excitement for the project by talking it out of our system.

    I just linked to Derek Siver’s short TED talk in my writing series yesterday. He says that when we talk about our goals too soon, studies show that we trick our brains into thinking we’ve already accomplished the vision. Talking too much about it lets off the steam that would have propelled us toward the goal.

    But then again, some of us do need the accountability of pushing forward in something we feel called to do instead of laying back and being intimidated. So, I share with a select few to help me be brave and wait to tell my larger circles until the project is well underway.

  • Reply November 15, 2012

    Megan

    I think I’d be better off sometimes if I kept things to myself until progress is made. The excitement of telling someone about a dream sometimes satisfies me just enough I end up not starting toward it. It’s a little like sampling the cookie dough before it’s baked, then not being hungry for actual cookies.

    I’d never really thought about this before, so thank you for waking me up to this tendency…

  • Reply November 16, 2012

    Tim

    Real Question: Do you prefer to tell people your big plans first or try to achieve in secret and then reveal the ambitions you had?

    Real Answer: Yes.

    I’ve done both over the decades and one seems to work as well as the other.

    Cheers,
    Tim

  • Reply November 19, 2012

    Tanya

    I generally wait to spill it. Once I have made progress towards a goal or have a plan to execute my idea I will discuss it with my BF. She is my sounding board; I feel “safe” with her. Sometimes she will act as my accountability partner and she always provides a safe harbor for me to share my disappointments. I don’t have to save face with her.

  • Reply November 28, 2012

    Lauren Mills @ {mercyINK}

    I tend to have a lot of idea and get excited about new projects, but haven’t always done a great job at really honing in on what I SHOULD be doing… simply because it’s a great idea doesn’t mean I should do it, & maybe I’ve stepped out too much in some areas and not enough in others (in the places I really need to be brave). It’s been a long process, for sure, but as God reveals himself to me & in me, & I trust who I am in Him, I’m gaining the confidence to be me, to write how I write, to blog what I love to blog about, and to not try to fit a mold of the woman/mom/blogger/person I should be. Good question :) -lauren

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