lysa terkeurst, unglued


A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to ask Lysa Terkeurst about her new book, Unglued. I have been a longtime fan of Lysa, first introduced to her work when we lived in Charlotte. The Bathtub is Full but I Feel Drained was the first “Christian mothering” (is that a genre?!) book I read, and I was enamored by the stories she told about adopting her sons. This newest book is a great read, and I read it with The No Brainer Blog in mind. I feel a huge burden not to put junk out on the Internet. It is a privilege to have this space and to use this voice, and I would hate to muck it up because I wasn’t being wise with my emotions.  I was excited to learn from the wisdom Lysa has collected over the years of being in the public space.

So, without further ado, my questions for Lysa. Be sure to check out her book if you want to know more!

1. In chapter 9, The Empty Woman, you speak about discouragement you experienced at a writers’ conference. Your friend has received a lot of positive feedback, while you got none. How did you walk through the disappointment between that day and the day when you had the clarity of hindsight to realize God protected your words from being public prematurely?

I had to learn to focus on my own responsibilities and actions and not look at what those around me were gaining or going through. That means finding reasons to celebrate what we have already been given and what we are doing right. I had to bury myself in God’s Word.

When I start to have those jealous feelings again, I have found that it is important for me to actively pursue good for others.

Ultimately, dealing with disappointment comes down to having a jealous spirit or a giving spirit. Thankfully, through Scripture, I have learned that having a giving spirit not only protects myself and those around from the ramifications jealousy causes, but it helps prepare my heart for all God has in store for me.

2. Being a woman with a public ministry, what are warning signs you see in women who are dangerously close to empty? Are there things you look for in your own attitude/heart that challenge you to fill up before it’s too late?

In Unglued I talk about how the absence of rest leads to an abundance of stress. When I see myself start to lose my temper often or get aggravated at my family over small things, I know I need to take some time for soul rest.

3. Do you have practical ways to make sure you remain “full” rather than empty?

I have learned the importance of making Scripture the first thing I soak up every morning. I have found that sometimes it isn’t practical to spend hours and hours in God’s word (especially in the mornings) but, that little bit of time and focus before I meet any of the day’s challenges really helps my perspective for that day. I must exchange whispers with God before exchanging shouts with the world.

Do you have ways you make sure to remain full?  How do you know when you’re “coming unglued”?


  • Reply September 5, 2012

    tracie stier-johnson

    i had the privilege of hearing lysa at she speaks … what a blessing! i’m reading unglued right now and will be doing an in-home study as well. i LOVE this message and lysa’s heart for sharing! thanks for sharing this today hayley … so not junk! :)

  • Reply September 5, 2012


    Definitely starting the day in the word is key for me. When I am inclined to check email/FB/Instagram/etc I repent and grab my bible. My mind is a sponge first thing in the morning why on earth would I want to fill it with anything less than God?
    When I start grumbling about wiping the table off or sweeping up crumbs for the umpteenth time, I know my tank is low.

  • Reply September 5, 2012

    Natalie @ NS Pottery

    I love this, “I must exchange whispers with God before exchanging shouts with the world.” So important!!

  • Reply September 5, 2012


    I have a passion for writing and sharing quality media, not junk, as well! A great way to do this seems to be to focus on Jesus, like you do!

  • Reply September 5, 2012

    Karina Elizabeth

    THanks for mush for this post. I lead a women’s life group and we are getting ready to walk though one of Lysa’s books. The more I learn about her life and ministry, the more excited I am about this study. BTW, I’m a Charlottean…funny to see many of the blog connections to the Queen City.

  • Reply September 5, 2012


    Thank you so much for bringing us that interview with Lysa. I recently heard her story on Focus on the Family for the first time and just fell in love with her.
    Some day next summer after finishing nursing school maybe I’ll be able to read for fun and pick up her book.

  • I just read “Made to Crave” by Lisa. So good! I wasn’t aware that she had written other things. I’m excited to check out this next one!

  • Reply September 6, 2012


    I love this! I know I’m coming unglued when I become irritable, and snappy…usually it happens when my priorities are out of wack, or I have put too much on my plate; tasks take over the importance of relationships. When I become too “task” oriented, aka a ‘Martha’, I need to take a breather, and be like Mary; sit at Jesus’ feet (which is ultimately the better place). I think this pricinciple is key in my walk with God, but also as an artist. If I become too focused on creating art, and never take time to breath, to be inspired, to read, to look at others art, I really don’t grow. Recieving is essential to outputing. There’s always a balance though, the opposite of never outputing and only receiving results in stagnation…just like a river constantly being filled, if its never flushed out, it turns into stagnant water. This has been a consistent message in my life that I seek to balance.

  • Reply September 6, 2012

    Laurie Wallin

    I stay involved in the things that come from my strengths – encouraging, coaching, doing the odd project around my house – because they energize me instead of adding to the drain. As a mom of 4 kids, 2 with special needs, I also keep the schedule simple. It’s funny, though, that this post comes now, after a single week of trying to be more of a normal family (lol!) and do a few after school activities after a history of none of those. It STILL doesn’t work. I’m trashed right now, and I’m realizing again that our family isn’t “like everyone else.” So, I suppose beating my head against the wall of “when in Rome…” every now and again reminds me what keeps me from being unglued :).

  • Reply September 10, 2012

    Corrie Anne

    I’d love to read that whole book!! Thanks for sharing!

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