giving up on good, less fuss

how much good is enough?

I am a hoarder.  I am an information, digital hoarder.  I am known to have 40+ tabs open at once.  Once my interest is piqued, I need to know I can access information in case I want to later.

It takes a deep breath at the end of the week for me to close out my collection of tabs.  It feels like a tiny loss when I do it, giving up on knowing something that was possible to know.

It is good to have information.  It is good to hold on to important things.  It is also good to recognize what is and what is not important.

I am going through a season of pruning right now.  The ability to discern the necessary from the good is imperative as I look at slimming down parts of my life.  Good is great, when you have room for it.  But, sometimes it’s time to strip down to the necessities and get rid of the good and beautiful fluff.

For me, loose ends and open doors are irritating to my soul in a really profound way.  I feel discontent and vulnerable when I have too many things going and too many things I’m taking care of.  Those open tabs and unfinished projects are like tiny open doors–and I wonder what I’m missing out on.

So, right now I’m weighing just how much information I need to allow to flow through my online life.  Not because it’s bad, or that other people wouldn’t be able to tolerate taking in such a large amount of stimulus.  But for me, knowing myself, I need to forgo a lot of the good in this season because I just can’t keep up.  And giving up that bit of good frees my mind and heart up to really, really process the good I do take in.

Are you giving up something good?  Link up below!

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  • Reply Anne July 12, 2012 at 7:27 am

    Oh my goodness, that is me exactly (I think your post is currently open in about the 20th tab in my browser, most of which are there just in case I want to refer to them later, but I probably haven’t even really looked at them in the first place), and I understand that little feeling of missing out on something each time you have to close a tab (or when your browser crashes, as mine occasionally does, probably from overload). Thanks for the great reminder that I need to just pick a few things to open, read and enjoy them completely, and then free myself up. And go outside.

  • Reply Lauren July 12, 2012 at 7:50 am

    I am HORRIBLE about this…you should see my macbook AND our personal PC – tabs everywhere! IT’s the letting go and loosing, and letting God DO. I am so intrigued by the Influence Conference, wish I could go this year!

  • Reply Jennifer Green July 12, 2012 at 8:25 am

    This is me exactly!! My husband always calls me out for having a ton of tabs open at once. I need to do the same thing. Slow down and focus instead of having my mind in a million different places at once.

  • Reply Jordyn July 12, 2012 at 8:53 am

    It’s funny that as I was reading your post, I had just done what Anne above did – opened your email and realized that it’s about the 30th tab open. I am notorious for having tabs open on my computer, and just like Jennifer Green, my husband always says something about it. I don’t know if this would be related (considering it’s not really a “thing”), but my fam and I just committed to The 100 Thing Challenge, purging down to just 100 (or so) personal things in our home. I’ve done a post before regarding having tons of email subscriptions that take up most of my morning reading everyday, and having open tabs is just another example of online overload in my life. This is something that I know I need to fix, and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply Jennifer Hoverstad July 12, 2012 at 9:27 am

    This post is so encouraging. My husband and I are working on pruning the “stuff” in our house, but I am taking my own steps to cut back on many of the things that take up my time. I can only focus on so much, but, like you, I have a constant fear that I miss out on something amazing if I don’t crack open every opportunity.

  • Reply eileen marie July 12, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    My husband call all of my open windows a “swarm of tabs”. (Think he saw it on Reddit)
    “For me, loose ends and open doors are irritating to my soul in a really profound way. I feel discontent and vulnerable when I have too many things going and too many things I’m taking care of. ” This really spoke to me. Sometimes the things you say resonate in a profound way, Hayley.

  • Reply sarah waggoner July 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm

    oh my gosh! i do that exact same thing, my husband finds it frustrating, if i’m on his laptop, and leave them all open, he’s like, “what is this?” .. madness i tell ya. thanks for the reminder to slow it down and focus on the important things!

  • Reply Casey July 12, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    I laughed to myself as I sheepishly opened another tab out of my Reader to comment on this post :) It’s giving up on being perfect in another tiny little way, isn’t it? Giving up on not knowing just ONE more DIY tip, or not having something “Pinterest Perfect”….I swear, I’m not sure if Pinterest is a blessing or a curse for a perfectionist! Encouraging post :) Well done.

  • Reply ElleSee July 12, 2012 at 5:25 pm

    That’s exactly what I do, too…except I thought 20 tabs open at one time was a lot :) I usually have a lot of blogs open that I intend to comment on, but it never happens. Thanks for the reminder to prune my tabs more often!

  • Reply Alia Joy July 13, 2012 at 2:38 am

    I only have 12 tabs open but I also have one music program, one note taking program, my outlook, calendar and my iphone nearby. Yup, I relate. Probably need to close some tabs as well. Summer has helped. Being outside and enjoying family. We really only get about 3 months of hot here in Oregon so we have to take advantage. Signing off now….

  • Reply Tracey July 13, 2012 at 8:06 pm

    For about 6 months I have been limiting my intake of information. Now that I have quit working I am starting to let a little more online information in, but I am tip toeing.

    Yesterday I discovered that my TweetDeck was not even operational anymore and Ann Voskamp finally took the auto play music off her blog. When did all THAT happen? :)

  • Reply {enchanted} lovely links, July 16, 2012 July 15, 2012 at 2:04 pm

    […] Too much information.  How do you filter all the information that is available to you – and how do you decide what is important and what can be let go.  Hayley talks about being a digital hoarder…about sometimes having 40 tabs open on her web browser.  Maybe we should start a support group – sometimes I open so many it makes my browser crash – yep I definitely have a problem with this one! (Tiny Twig) […]

  • Reply Terri M July 21, 2012 at 5:58 pm

    I can so relate to your desire to pare down things in your life that don’t give you peace of mind. For me right now, it is stuff in the house. Want to get down to just the things that are useful or that I really love and the rest I will share/donate with others. Giving up these things are so freeing and feel like summer should feel.

  • Reply Nicole July 29, 2012 at 1:12 am

    Boy, can I relate. I am the Queen of Tabs. And my husband jokes that I have FOMO- fear of missing out, and I truly do to a certain extent. You’re right about how connected it all is to my contentment. Maybe I should start closing my browser every night? I often think about doing that but never do. ;)

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