talk about your passion

lucy-burns

Can you talk about your passion?  Does it embarrass you?  Do you feel like, “How dare I feel so strongly?”.

To be honest?  Sometimes, when I talk about Tiny Twig with people who know me more in real life than online…I feel sheepish.  Yet, this online community–and mostly the fruit that comes from that (women living in freedom!  encouragement!  real community!)–is the what I’m so crazy passionate about.  But, people who know me more as Hayley-they-grew-up-with than Hayley-the-tiny-twig have a harder time getting “it”.  And I feel 10x sillier and less legitimate talking about Tiny Twig with people who knew me before this passion “became something”.

Maybe you feel like the fruits of your passion are small, so why embarrass yourself by taking it seriously?  Why talk about it with the seriousness that it holds in your heart?  Why ask others to buy into it?  It’s easier to just say “Oh, you know…it’s nothing really.”

But, it IS something.  Your painting, your singing, your caring for children.  Your teaching, your writing, your standing up for the poor.  Your traveling, your gardening, your setting the captives free.  Your blogging, your nursing, your blessing the downtrodden.  This ALL matters.  It all matters.

Here is how I put words to my passion.  This was my chance to say it aloud, to really speak life into my passion.

How can you speak life into your passion this week? Tell someone knew about what you really love? Finally open up to your spouse about your secret hobby? Tell your mom that you want to change your major?

Let me know in the comments…I’d love to cheer you on!

40 Comments

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Kimberly

    I feel ridiculous telling the people who know me the best that I write. I’d rather tell a stranger than explain it to my best friends. Why is that? If they know me and love me, then they should know every part of me! Thank you so much for addressing this issue. I feel so encouraged:)

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Kimberly, I think you’re rad. Writing is hard, because in the past it was a select few who got published. But, the tides are turning–the time is ripe for new writers! I think now is the most exciting time to be a writer. Try not to miss out on the big changes and innovations coming to the publishing world out of fear. :) The world needs your voice.

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    steph

    yes. just like kimberly, i’d rather tell strangers. for some reason, when i talk about it with friends, i feel like they put it in some weird, trifling category. like that’s a pet hobby that she entertains herself with.
    my hubby is another who has been hard to convince that it’s something i’m serious about. until i started talking about e-books. and the potential. and the potential others have seen in it. then. . . he started contemplating and encouraging. maybe there’s hope after all :-)
    i do think it’s hard for non-writer types to “get.” but i keep pressing on, because it is what keeps me feeling alive on many a day. it is, truly, my passion.
    have a great week!
    steph

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Yes, the eBook was a big turning point for my husband, too. I think they have to see the momentum that is occurring to REALLY put their dreamer hat on, too. Now, my husband thinks Tiny Twig is the coolest thing our family has going. ;)

      keep going, friend. if you ever want to chat eBooks, I’d love to answer any questions or skype or something!

      • Reply April 18, 2012

        steph

        oh, i would LOVE to chat e-books, hayley! i’ll be at your meet-up on the 28th. after that, forget skype–let’s have coffee :-) !!!!
        thanks for the encouragement. i feel like i have momentum between this conversation and a few with some other bloggers. who knew? i mean, really, who knew what sharing a few thoughts could produce?
        thanks so much!
        steph

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Kimberly

      Letting others join us on the writing journey is tricky at best:) It’s so encouraging to hear that I’m not the only one struggling with how much to reveal. I finally ‘fessed up to my husband about a long term writing project I am working on, and his support has helped fan the flame rather than douse it. Cheering you on in your passion for writing, Steph!

      • Reply April 18, 2012

        steph

        thank you so much, kimberly! i feel ridiculously thrilled by your cheers :-) and cheering you on as well. that is what i love about on-line community. finding others with the same passions that encourage us to express those passions in real life. that is community at its best.
        blessings to you in your endeavors!
        steph

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    17 Perth

    Okay, I am recognizing a theme here–I would rather tell a stranger too than the people closest to me (minus my husband–I bounce ideas off of him ALL the time). I have a passion lately I realized for mission work. It is strange because it all came about so organically, but I have always had a passion for Africa (after traveling there in college) and since then I have been hooked. Lately I realized that my passion is for 3rd world countries…..especially ministering to women. I could go on and on…. :)

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Yes, my husband is my sounding board, too. It took a long time for him to realize that not every idea I articulated to him was actually a plan I wanted to carry out. I just love big ideas! :) So now, he listens with a loose ear–knowing that holding me to these ideas is not the best plan of action. ha!

      Have you heard of fashionABLE? http://www.livefashionable.com They are a great organization in Nashville and I really love what they are doing!

      xo.

      • Reply April 18, 2012

        17 Perth

        I hadn’t heard of it…definitely going to check it out. Thanks!

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    katy.

    This is how I feel with music. I get so embarrassed to mention that I’m an aspiring singer/songwriter. God has given me such a passion for music, that the thought of being able to do it professionally and spend my days making music brings me so much joy, I can barely stand it. But it’s also very ambitious..and a tough industry to get into(see how I start putting God into a box?) and to tell people, especially those who really know me, that this is what I want to do. It’s tough. Especially since I’ve had this dream for a while, but never really pursued it until now.

    But that’s what I’ve been dealing with lately and you writing this has me feeling that maybe I’m not so silly after all. I’m trying to be more vocal and open about my dreams. I feel like the more vocal we are about our dreams, the more likely they are to happen. You never know who’s watching and who may be able to help you in your journey.

    Okay, done with the novel. ;)

    Basically thank you. Feeling much less alone in this all of a sudden.

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Girl–you can do it! Music has so.many.avenues. It can be very discouraging, sure. It is an industry that is largely about money and fame, etc. BUT, there is such beauty in honest music making. I know that you will find a way to wiggle into the music world in your own way.

      Have you done Strengths Finder 2.0? It might help in discerning ways that you could move within the music industry. I’d love to chat about it sometime! Plus, the GWG gig is a GREAT way to get in there. Brooke seems like a good, sweet, and generous heart to work with.

      • Reply April 18, 2012

        katy.

        Adam has that book, actually. I just went to the bookshelf and grabbed it. I will definitely start reading that.

        I actually haven’t mentioned it to Brooke yet. Another source of fear. I don’t want her to think I’m being disingenuous. You know? Not that she would. She’s super sweet.

        We should definitely talk, maybe you can help me open up to her about that. In fact, we should talk no matter what. I would love that!

        Thank you for being so encouraging. That’s all I desire, a way to make honest music that’s not centered on becoming rich or famous. Those aren’t part of my goals at all. If I could spend my days making singing, writing and making music. I can’t think of anything better.

        God is stirring within me and I just can’t wait to see where he takes the passion and talents He’s given me!

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Nicole J

    I can totally relate to this! One thing that I know stirs my heart is connecting people and exposing people to needs. I may not be able to hop on a plane and fly to Guatemala on a whim to minister to ladies there, but I can tell others about organizations that are working there. I also know that I have a heart for adoption and families in the process of adoption. I want to be an encouragement in their lives! These things are easy for me to write about on my blog, but I still struggle to articulate these things to “real life people.” Sometimes I think people may simply not relate to me or have the same passion. Instead of taking a step out, I often just assume that people don’t want to hear about these things. I’m encouraged to speak out more and, who knows, maybe someone else shares these ideas or maybe it stirs up their own passion!

    • Reply April 17, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      our world needs witness-bearers. PLEASE, keep exposing the needs you see. i know that people are eager to serve, but often don’t know where the greatest need exists.

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      People want to know about adoption! There is a whole online community that just DEVOURS information about adoption. I think there is a great potential for a huge adoption movement through telling the individual stories online. People can get a window into what adoptive life is like before they take the plunge. I know I’m more inclined to “do the hard things” when I’ve seen others do them beautifully and messily and graciously. :)

      • Reply April 18, 2012

        Nicole J

        I, too, hope that people who read my little blog are inspired, encouraged, or curious about the families pursing adoption. You never know how stories will change perspectives and ideas! This is something that God pressed on my heart–to share about and support adopting families. Even though I know it’s a little drop in a big pond, I know that God is able to produce huge waves!

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Catherine Denton

    This is SO difficult for me. I have one person I really talk about my blog with: my sister. (I sent some emails yesterday, by the way) This past year I actually updated my Facebook status with a few blog posts and gained some followers in real life. This does encourage me to speak out a little more but my legs might be shaking.
    Catherine Denton

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      I have always liked the quote “Speak the truth, even if your voice is shaking”. And I think that’s kind of how I do blogging. :) As a rule, I tend to veer away from the controversial or inflammatory tone some use to gain page views. But, sometimes my story still makes my voice shake! xoxo.

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Emily

    so it’s not just me that’s a bit embarrassed by my blog!

    i think that, for me, i am scared that if i open myself up to the people who know me in ‘real life’ i won’t get the support or encouragement that i would like. i ended up sharing my everyday blog with my friends and their reception has not only been positive, but has cheered me on when there are days i am not feeling passionate about it.

    i think that the want to share with strangers (as i do…and the rest of the commenters!) is because it’s safer for us – and sometimes it’s the first step to letting those around us know what our passions are.

    i started another blog a few weeks ago, which i am incredibly passionate about, but it’s so personal that i don’t want to ‘promote’ it on FB or have people that i know reading it….here’s my first step to letting them into my latest passion…. would you like to read it? http://www.mayhemandmustardseeds.blogspot.com

    hang in there ladies! your passions are important! thanks for the thought provoking post this morning, hayley!

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Gemma

    This is a great post! For such a long time I was embarrassed to tell my friends and family about my blog even though it is something I spend so much time doing. When I met my boyfriend I was really sheepish about it all but he (and my family) are now really supportive and quite often can be heard saying “ooh you should blog about that”!

    Sometimes I need to remind myself that the world needs our talents and passion, it needs what we as creative women (and men!) have to offer and whilst not everyone will understand my passion for blogging, it’s part of who I am now.

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      The world needs you! They do!

      And also, when I went to Blissdom…I felt like I had to explain it to my “non-blogging” friends like it was a match.com convention. :) Some of my dearest friends I only see a few times a year–because we met online and live far-flung. This is a new time in history where relationships and community are not dictated by geography. That is exciting! Thanks for hanging around here. I always love your words.

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Erin Kohl

    This is so encouraging to my heart. I’m afraid to say just how much I enjoy blogging. I don’t want to just be like everyone else jumping on the blogging band wagon. And I really don’t want to be rejected [told that I’m no good at it.] But I truly enjoy doing it! Thanks for encouraging women [and me] to be proud of the things they love!

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Keep on it, Erin. Be encouraged–there is no blogging bandwagon. It’s just a medium to tell stories, like any other. You are a welcome and needed voice in the conversation. :)

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Amy Tilson

    Are you a mind reader. I’ve been debating “promoting” my new blog on my Facebook page for this very reason. I have online friends and friends from my adult life that are in on this and get it, but I’m so scared silly about what people from my life 20+ years ago would think. May be time to shout it from the rooftop, or my wall anyway. Thanks for this encouragement.

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      I think I should probably start Mind-Reading School. Because, these posts seems to have resonated. I think what we deal with as women–and as humans–is pretty universal. I just hope that through the story-telling aspect of blogging we can start to feel more comradery and a sense of “not-aloneness”. :)

      About promoting…I always like to know when someone I know personally has a blog. I feel like I get an insight into their lives I may not get otherwise. Plus, those people you haven’t talked to you in YEARS will come out of the woodwork to read your blog. :) That’s the best!

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Katie

    Hayley, I knew you before Tiny Twig & think it is one of the best blogs out there. I tell people all the time to read it. I am so proud of all you have done with your passion, that you should NEVER feel silly about it. I look forward to reading it every day!

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      You’re my fave, Katie! Miss you, friend.

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Amanda

    Wow, Hayley, that video is amazing! You sound and look so professional (or “legit” :) and like you’re really enjoying yourself.

    And another wow: When I read the first two paragraphs of this post, I felt like you were describing me and my feelings. I get so sheepish when I talk about some of my passions with people who know me in “real life.” Especially because a lot of these people don’t understand blogging and the community it creates. People have even told me it was “silly” and have asked why I’m wasting my time.

    You have just reminded me that it is definitely not silly and not a waste of time! Thank you!

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      Thanks, lady! :) You know what–I don’t think a lot of people get blogging…the people who read blogs are still in the minority. Just like any innovation, give it time…the landscape will settle and it will be more “credible” to people.

      Blogging is real, and while changing, I don’t think it’s going anywhere. So, it’s not silly…you’re doing great, Amanda!

  • Reply April 17, 2012

    Sierra

    I am so glad I found your blog! I have a hard time sharing my passion, my dreams even on my blog because I am afraid I will never achieve them and am not confident in myself. This stunts my blog and my growth. Thanks for such positive encouragement. What you are doing on your blog is so inspiring to me and making a big difference in other’s lives! Thank you! :)

    • Reply April 18, 2012

      Tiny Twig

      I think that’s a common thing. Not sharing what you’re excited about in case you fail. I get that. Totally. Hmmmm, maybe that will be a post because I have personal experience with that, too.

  • Reply April 19, 2012

    Becky

    Yes, yes, yes! I started writing a novel last fall and I found myself telling people like it was no big deal even though it really was (and is!) to me. I just felt embarrassed to be attempting it and embarrassed by how excited I was. Then I felt hurt that people didn’t seem to think it was a big deal- when I’m the one who gave them that impression! Sheesh ;)

  • Reply April 19, 2012

    ThebLife of Clare

    I just watched your video and I loved it! I was just saying to a friend last night how much I’m loving my place in the small blogging community I am becoming part of! Im just on the edge of a big change in my life and feel the need to share it on my blog and get some of those opinions before I put it to those I’m closest to. Thank you for putting it out there and giving my feeling some justification and a voice!

  • Reply April 21, 2012

    lauren

    This post really resonated with me. Thank you so much for writing this for us all to seriously connect! I’ve just read through all the comments and WOW! It’s amazing to see how NOT ALONE I am in these feelings! I tend to downplay everything and it’s all because of fear. So… what am I passionate about?

    adoption
    my husband
    my son
    writing

    … I started writing the book God laid on my heart over a year ago, but I just couldn’t get up the courage to do it. It’s been pouring out of me and I still have only told a few people and when I did I totally did the “oh it’s nothing” bit. Time for me to swallow my fear share my passion with the world! Thanks for the boost of courage!

    Wrote a little about conquering fears the other day… http://www.laurencasper.com/2012/04/17/no-fear/

  • Reply April 21, 2012

    Anna

    I’ve been struggling with how much to reveal on my blog, and a little embarrassed to admit to people who have known me for years that I’m putting my thoughts out to the internet world. It’s actually my husband who has been mentioning it when talking to people we know. He’s proud that I’ve finally started writing something, anything and the response has been mixed. Some people have told me that I need to get out more, but I’ve had several people pleased that I’ve started. It’s so hard to gauge how people are going to react. Currently I’m working on a children’s book and looking at e-publishing and self-publishing, but I’ve been loath to blog about that journey.

  • Reply April 21, 2012

    Sheila @ Seasoned Joy

    I have so much trouble with this. I’ve barely told any of my “real-life” friends about my blog, and none of my family knows except for my husband.

    I’ve been working on a facebook page for my blog, and feel like that will kind of be my big reveal for friends & family, when I start linking to it from my personal facebook account. So far I’ve just been too scared to share it – I feel so silly.

    My blog is mostly about improvement (house, self, mind,) so it’s like I think people who know me in real life are going to be thinking “yeah, you really do need to improve” or something. Or just think it’s dumb that I consider my cooking projects a form of improvement.

    Typing that out I don’t give my friends & family much credit, do I? It’s still so hard…

  • Reply April 22, 2012

    eileen marie

    Hayley,
    You probably already know about this guy, but I just stumbled upon his site, and it so reminded me of you and your “less fuss” (and even being passionate to some degree). Check him out! He is definitely inspiring change in me!
    http://mnmlist.com/

  • Reply April 29, 2012

    Jen

    I hear you. Every time I tell one of my regular {offline} friends that I am meeting up or talking to one of my “blog friends” I feel like I need some of kind of disclaimer about how they aren’t some psycho I met on the Internet. My blog friends ARE my real friends. And I love them! But sometimes it’s hard to convey the depth of some of my blog relationships… and maybe I shouldn’t even feel a need to justify it.

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